Sunday, March 11, 2012
Being transformed is what Freedom Seminars is all about! We don't usually put that right out there, but it is the "magic" that we all seek and want others to have! It is just so hard for people to believe it can happen! Oh, yes, it would be nice....for other people. But it just sounds too easy, too corny, too out there to say it!
What is transformation, anyway? It can be defined as "becoming new" or "changed in a significant way". In Biblical tradition, a normal person became as a "spirit" with the qualities of timelessness and radiance, having powers that seemed unearthly. In present tense transformation involves understanding at a new level, which means that our thinker is involved! We "see" things, people, and circumstances differently. What might before have been "problems" now seem simply as change in direction or opportunity. When transformed we become grateful for things we have before taken for granted.
Transformation occurs in the NOW! When you and I begin to live in the present, we are more available for it.
Transformation occurs when we know what we want! We spend way too much mental energy knowing what we don't want and defending against it! When we become honest and just say it, there are so many choices for us to experience Joy, Peace, Love and Abundance.
Transformation lasts! Once you have taken the step forward into newness, it is very uncomfortable to pretend the victim status.
Transformation leads to MORE! It is a way of living! It is a way of giving! It is a way of changing your family tree!
Thursday, March 8, 2012
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Many of us avoid change in our lives because we believe that it requires so much of us. We would really like to become what we’ve dreamed of but we tell ourselves we can’t spare the time or energy. But consider this possibility. Would you make a change if you knew that it required just a simple change in your language?
For example, in a visit with a young man the other day, I learned that his goal for this year is to be less angry. “What would less angry be like for you?”I asked and he explained that he would become more thoughtful and respond rather than react to situations that seemed to “cause” his anger.
“Would you be willing to take part in an experiment ?”, I asked. “Would you be willing to replace the idea of “less angry” with “thoughtful and responsive” each time you thought or talked about this goal for the next week?”
He agreed to this experiment. One week later he reported a significant change in his experience at home and at his job. He had not found very little to be angry about. He had felt much more productive and satisfied with at his job. And his time with family had been calm and enjoyable.
This is a simple example of learning a new language. No it is not a Rosetta stone version. However, it would be a great idea! The language that most of us have been speaking since being small children is the Language of Limitation! In speaking it daily we remind ourselves of our weaknesses, inabilities and insecurities. In speaking the Language of Limitation we insure that we will not be able to rise above the cycles of frustration, disappointment, and feeling of being not important.
We could spend a lifetime trying to break out of these cycles that we find ourselves in. Many just give in to the lies that this language continually whispers into our subconscious thoughts.
How can you become a Winner?
We all want to win! We all want to be champions! We all want to be successful! What is the language of champions, of winners? The Language of Winners is the language of Abundance! This new language focuses on the positive, possible, and challenging ideas of your dreams. It lifts you above the old thoughts of weakness and failure. It is the language of MORE!
What MORE do you want in your life? Would you be willing to try an experiment?
Monday, November 15, 2010
almost automatically deleted, then, wait a minute! I read it again, and
thought, this is the cheer for those who want MORE! This is the mantra of
Win/Win! This is the belief that I want personally to be guiding my choice
When I get to a place where things are “good” I have a tendency to self congratulate.
“Wow, Pat, you have worked hard! Now sit down and rest and
give yourself a break!” Good is so comfortable, especially after years of feeling
miserable, depressed, angry, or rejected. Good is like heaven!
But wait! Can accepting ‘good’ become a comfort zone in itself? I believe it
can if we settle into it like a comfy couch and begin to let life happen without
our thought or input.
I’m not saying that we should not enjoy the results of our efforts. I am not
saying that we should not celebrate! It is important to take stock, acknowledge
our growth, and take care of ourselves by resting and celebrating!
However if we truly want to experience excellence in our lives, “good
enough” may not get us there.
I believe that most of us equal excellence with a level of discomfort. For
example, if I want to weigh 150 pounds, I am going to have to change my
choices about eating and exercise. This simple desire on my part will tear me
out of my comfortable place where I’m feeling pretty good! And I will have
to THINK! OFTEN! About what my commitment is and what actions
it requires. UNCOMFORTABLE!
How do I get the results that I want? I first know what results I want. I make
a mark each day on the Excellence Elevator. Any discomfort that I experience
I count as an indicator that I am ever closer to reaching my new goal.
And I begin to understand that the idea of discomfort is a JUDGMENT rather
than a reality. If the Result I want is important enough, then the action I
take to achieve it is not discomfort. It is merely a step toward EXCELLENCE!
~ Pat Hardesty
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
After the completion of the June 2010 session of Freedom Seminars, I arrived home to house guests which had arrived from Florida earlier that day, on of which was my Grandma. She’s getting older and the realization of that has taken hold as I cherish the times we have together, which isn’t very often. Most of my family have always given hugs, but often it’s the “tent hug” or the “granny hug”, when your patted on the back until you want to burp. I welcomed her with a big “Freedom Hug” which I could tell surprised and touched her heart. She didn’t want to let go and neither did I. What a wonderful way to start our visit. I had made a mental list of the things I wanted to do with her during the brief 36 hour stay and we manage to check everything off in rapid succession. As she left, we embraced once more; this time initiated by my Grandma, neither of us ready to say good-bye to the other.
When I was a young teenager, I remember when my Grandpa Hardesty completed the Roots and Wings training. It was unusual to have him here in Missouri; we were often the ones making our annual summer pilgrimage to Oklahoma. I hopped in the car with Dad to take Grandpa to the airport, which was weird anyways, and then Grandpa held on to me the entire time. I can remember thinking, “OK, Grandpa, you’re going to miss your plane if you don’t let go.” I was a willing participant, a little confused, but willing to hold his hand and give him a big Freedom Hug before boarding the plane. I didn’t realize the full significance of that moment in time, but now as a grown woman I will cherish that experience forever.
Giving someone a proper hug is not only a way of greeting or saying good-bye, it’s a way of letting them know that you love and cherish them, that you care deeply about who they are. For some, I believe it can be a way of feeling vulnerable and there fore they are reluctant to share that experience with other. It opens one up to what each has to offer the other in becoming more “in-to-me-I-see” (intimate) with them. It’s amazing how such a seemingly small act can be so powerful and on of the greatest gifts you can ever give another human being.
When was the last time you gave or received a good Freedom Hug? You can take action in creating meaningful relationships with those you care for by sharing this simple yet powerful tool with them. It’s not necessary to explain the reason behind your actions; just let it be and see what happens!
Hard to describe in words, Freedom is not a traditional seminar with a podium and tables. It is an experience, really it is an experience that will change your life. During Freedom Seminar I learned tools that I have been able to use from that time forward.
Recently I had the privilege of being a TA with some very seasoned veteran TAs. One of the things Russ Hardesty, the main trainer, said to the TAs was to trust the process, because Freedom Seminar is a process by which transformation occurs, the caterpillar becomes the butterfly. This happens visibly to every person who completes the Roots and Wings seminar. Even the strongest, most confident among the group stands taller, speaks with more confidence and is more determined to make a difference in the world. Some realize for the first time they can make a difference in the world.
What occurred to me on the last day of seminar is that the seminar is not really even about them. As a TA, Russ told us to remember that the seminar is about the trainees. The people who go through the seminar set the tone for what will happen in their lives. While they are there, at the seminar, it is about them. On the last day, the last song reminded me, though, the seminar is not about the 17 who were graduating on that day or the hundreds of others who’ve gone through the seminar over the years. It’s about making the world a better place. It’s about giving back to others so that they have the tools to help change the lives of everyone they meet.
It is a spiritual journey to wholeness. It is about getting rid of the baggage that has held us back. Freedom Seminar is about getting unstuck. But its also about having to tools to get out of the mire before it engulfs completely.
Simply put, Freedom Seminar is about becoming everything you hoped to be and more. It is a spiritual, practical journey that starts the moment you walk through the door of the Roots and Wings seminar and continues for the rest of your life.